Be, Not Do – Rediscovering the Value of Empty Space
In a world that celebrates productivity, it can feel almost radical to do nothing. Our days are filled with meetings, messages, errands, plans and goals. Even our leisure time often becomes another opportunity for achievement. We count steps, track sleep, set reading targets and create bucket lists. The pressure to make every moment useful can […]
The Hardest Person To Forgive
On self-forgiveness, unfinished business, and what it means to finally let yourself off the hook. Most people think forgiveness is about the other person. Gestalt suggests the person most in need of your forgiveness may be closer to home. There is someone you have probably not fully forgiven. Not the person who let you down […]
The Aliveness – You Are Not Chasing
On joy, genuine contact, and why the feeling you are looking for is already here. Joy is not what happens when everything goes right. Gestalt suggests it is what happens when you are genuinely present to whatever is actually here. We have spent a good deal of this series in difficult territory. Shame, burnout, the […]
The Radical Act of Being Kind to Yourself
On self-compassion, why we resist it, and what makes it genuinely difficult for high achieving people. Self -compassion sounds simple. For most people in professional life, it turns out to be one of the hardest things available. Self-compassion has an image problem In many professional contexts, it sounds like something between therapy speak and self-indulgence, […]